If I hear back at all from readers, it is usually either very soon after their letter was published, or, as in this case, some years later.
The mother who wrote to me in 2010 was worried that her son wasn’t being very industrious.
Then, in November 2013, R wrote back to me and with her permission I am reproducing part of her email here:
“Just a quick note to update you. Thank you once again for all your help and sensible advice.
My son graduated in July 2012 with a 2:1 in [identifying detail taken out] engineering, so that was pretty good and he was pleased and exhausted at the end of all that.
He then spent the summer hanging out with his friends and building things in our garden (a typical engineer) with no sign of looking for a job or anything. Hubby and I remained very calm (at least I hope so) and then at the end of September offered help to review his CV and help him to look for jobs. He did let me help him a little and I tried hard not to be pushy. Anyway he applied for a job as a graduate engineer in the city where he had been a student and where he hoped to live, and got the first job he applied for! Not sure who was more amazed – me or him.
He’s been in that job for over a year now and it is going well, and he seems happy. He cycles into work every day and seems to be reasonably punctual, and gets on well with his team-mates. I think he is happier in a job compared to being a student. It’s a world I have no links with but it’s right that I don’t.
So, all for now, is well.
Many thanks once again,