My partner wants us to have kinky sex, but I find it traumatic
Dear Annalisa, I am in my late 20s, and have been with my boyfriend for almost 10 years. I love him dearly and don’t want to lose him.…
My sister’s getting married. How can I go if I’m afraid of my stepdad?
Dear Annalisa, My younger sister has just got engaged, and I’m really happy for her and her partner. The difficulty is, I’m not sure I can go…
My father always put me down. Do I have to pretend to like him?
Dear Annalisa, Since childhood, I have had a fraught relationship with my father who always had to be right. We were not supposed to challenge or disagree…
I’m worried that my elderly father is in an abusive marriage and is being isolated from me. The Guardian.
Dear Annalisa I am really concerned about my dad’s current relationship. After being widowed for some years, he met someone new and, within a short time,…
How do I explain to my children the rift with my mother, whose partner abused me? The Guardian.
Dear Annalisa I have been estranged from my mother since I was 18. When my brother and I were very young, my mother left my father…
My estranged father wants to get in touch, but I don’t want to see him. The Guardian.
Dear Annalisa I’m a 29-year-old professional, engaged to a great man, living and working abroad, fit, healthy and happy. My estranged father has contacted me saying…
My husband often goes on holiday and leaves me with our child. The Guardian
Dear Annalisa My husband and I live abroad without our families with our two-year-old child. Our marriage has not been on solid ground for a while…
My brother, who lives at home, is abusive to my mum. I worry he’ll hit her. The Guardian.
Dear Annalisa I am the eldest of four children of a single mother. I have two sisters and a brother, who is the second child. He…
My sister is having a very open affair, and I worry about its effect on her husband and children. The Guardian.
Dear Annalisa My sister is a bright graduate who has always been stubborn and single-minded, and needed intense, passionate relationships. When she met her husband and…
My girlfriend is always having to rescue her adult children and it’s affecting our partnership. The Guardian.
Dear Annalisa I have been in a relationship for about two years with a woman I love and adore, and we have lived together for a…
