My partner’s unresolved grief is putting a strain on our relationship
Dear Annalisa, As a teenager, my partner lost their father to illness. He was their idol, so of course this led to profound grief, which I feel is unresolved. We recently…
I lost my partner, but our relationship was a secret so I can’t talk to anyone
Dear Annalisa, Six months ago I lost my partner. We were lovers for 22 years. You are the first person I have told about this. Our relationship was…
How can I cope with my manipulative mother? The Guardian.
Dear Annalisa I am a woman in my 50s looking for advice on how to cope with my needy and manipulative mother, who is in her…
15 ways to support someone who is grieving. The Guardian.
1. Never avoid someone who has been bereaved. It’s confusing and hurtful. Texts, emails and letters are all acceptable – it’s the contact that matters. Grief…
I’ve fallen for a man who has lost his wife but he no longer wants to see me. The Guardian.
Dear Annalisa Last year, I signed up to a cycling holiday abroad. I hadn’t cycled seriously for two decades. I fell in love with the country…
I’ve just discovered that my adored dad, who is now dead, had an affair. The Guardian.
Dear Annalisa I loved my dad. I was a serious daddy’s girl until he died when I was 13. Even though I only spent a little…
I coped well after my partner left me and the children five years ago, but suddenly I feel overwhelmed. The Guardian.
Dear Annalisa I’m a single parent with sole responsibility for my two children. Their father left about five years ago, before they started school, and now…
When should I show my daughter a letter her dad wrote her before his death? The Guardian.
Dear Annalisa I don’t so much have a problem as a quandary. My husband died of cancer, aged 33, in 2003. We had a daughter the…
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