My abusive parents won’t admit what they’ve done. How can I let go of the pain?
Dear Annalisa, I’m 43 and father to a wonderful daughter, whom I co-parent. I live abroad now but am British-born. My parents were abusive, and this left me…
I’ve gone off sex since our child was born, and fear this will hurt our marriage
Dear Annalisa, My daughter is 15 months old, and since I gave birth, my libido has been very low. Sex is the last thing on my mind, which…
My boyfriend and I have been together for nine months. Why won’t he say ‘I love you’?
Dear Annalisa, My boyfriend (aged 39) and I (36) have been together for nine months. We live together, have met each other’s family and friends and…
Was it so wrong to pass on my brother’s diagnosis without his consent?
Dear Annalisa, My dad died two years ago, exposing a sea of secrets and lies. He’d had a degenerative condition, but was totally in denial –…
I want to be a better parent than my mother was – but I’m failing
Dear Annalisa, There’s nothing like parenting to open your eyes to how you were parented, and I’ve discovered that I have an avoidant attachment style. As a…
I want to have a better relationship with my gran, but her behaviour enrages me
Dear Annalisa, I wish I could have a better relationship with my grandmother. She has beenrecognised as a difficult person, a liar and highly critical for as long…
Why is my mother-in-law still so angry about her ex’s affair?
Dear Annalisa, My husband is one of four, and they all have children of their own. His parents divorced when he was young after his father had a long-standing affair…
My partner is cruel. Why can’t I find the courage to leave him?
Dear Annalisa, I have a relationship problem and I feel stuck. I met my partner two years ago via online dating. Since then he has rebuffed all my…
Our three-year-old says he loves me more than his dad. What can I do?
Dear Annalisa, For the past six months, our three-year-old son has been showing clear favouritism towards me. My partner finds it really upsetting and was recently devastated…
I left my husband on good terms but now I feel out of control
Dear Annalisa, I left my husband last summer. We have three young children who live with me, but see their dad regularly. Things are cordial and…
Annalisa Barbieri 
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