My dad scorns my career goals. How do I keep us from falling out?
Dear Annalisa, I have just turned 17 and will soon go to college. I have always done well at school; I don’t drink, use drugs or even…
OCD has plagued me for most of my life – can I ever escape it?
Dear Annalisa, I am a 76-year-old married man and have had intense and ongoing obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) since the age of 13. My father was killed in the second world…
Help! My parents won’t accept my move to my wife’s home country
Dear Annalisa, My wife and I have decided to move with our two young sons to her home country. It was a difficult decision and we spent a…
My partner delights in being a dad, but is awful to me. What can I do?
Dear Annalisa, My partner and I have been together for five years; we have a son. My partner wasn’t supportive during my pregnancy and showed no interest in antenatal appointments or…
A childhood desire to wear women’s pants has returned. Is it perverted?
Dear Annalisa, As a child, I stole a pair of my mother’s high-waisted, pink and white nylonknickers and wore them under my short trousers to school. I…
My toxic mother wants contact with my child – how do I approach this?
Dear Annalisa, I am expecting a baby later this year. Despite living in a different country, my mother wants to be as involved as she can. I…
I think the married woman I had an affair with is pregnant with my baby. What’s the right thing to do?
Dear Annalisa, Before lockdown, I began an affair with a married woman, J. She told me I was her soulmate and no one had ever made…
Our adopted daughter has rejected us. How can we help her?
Dear Annalisa, After years of trying to have a baby, my husband and I adopted a girl of early primary school age. Despite doing lots of homework,…
I don’t want to invite my father to my wedding but feel coerced into doing so. The Guardian.
Dear Annalisa My sister and I have always had a rather fraught relationship with my father. He failed to form bonds and took no interest in…
My teenage daughter is in a miserable state; she has lost hope. The Guardian.
Dear Annalisa I am desperately worried about my teenage granddaughter, who is in a very miserable state. Her self-esteem is at rock bottom, she has no…
Annalisa Barbieri 
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